As soon as I found out I had cancer. I got a chicken sanwhich from Main Street Footers (I live in Turlock, CA) and laughed with my girlfriend awkwardly thru most of the afternoon. We then went to get a blood test that tells me the status of my tumor. After the colonoscopy IV and this blood test, I am considering shaving my arms. I am very hairy (no back hair thank God) in the arms and it hurts every time they pull bandages off and since this is going to be happening for a while, giving it some thought.
Here is what I have to do at this point: Get a CT scan (scheduled for the 14th) to find out if its spreading and if I will require chemo, see Expendables 2 (big Stallone and Norris fan), schedule a surgery (plan to work til day before surgery), see a cancer specialist afterward.
Also, I have to call places like disability services, cancercare, and other foundations to see about help. Having already called cancercare, the relief they offer is for chemo patients (hoping it does not come to that).
My mom had colon cancer last year. She was 61. I have always been into old movies and old music (favorites being Marx Brothers, Bob Dylan, Pat Boone, Woody Allen, Rodney Dangerfield, Bruce Brown). I guess it makes sense that I got this now as I was always old at heart.
WHEN CALLING FAMILY WITH THE NEWS DON”T EXPECT ANYTHING. My mom said this is all my dad’s fault then wanted to talk weather. One family member called to argue that colon cancer was so rare in my age group. I got my stats from a cancer foundation online. This all has already taught me that BEING RIGHT IS NOT AS IMPORTANT AS BEING HAPPY. I wish I would have realized that during all the stupid fights I have had in my life.
I love films and have one I am co-directing as early as December. I decided the night of my results to go to the beautiful STATE THEATER in Modesto and see a film to lift my spirits. DON’T SEE A TODD SOLONDZ FILM THE NIGHT YOU FIND OUT YOU HAVE CANCER. The film, Dark Horse, was very good and am glad I saw it but mondo depressing. It was about a man child who equates a girlfriend, a pitiable pill popper, with a toy and how deciding to grow up and be a man can cause a lot of trouble. The characters and message felt true; truthfully I am glad I saw it. I am also glad I saw it with my fiancee (I will call her V from here on out) since she got to try her first martini and any day with her is a great one.
When I got home that night, I looked around online for people my age with colon cancer and found little. I am starting this blog in the hopes that maybe something I find out will help other young people going through this generally old man (or woman) problem.